Doing you.. .

Do you ever find yourself comparing yourself to what you see others potraying on social media? Like how they always seems to have it all together?

Well the truth is most of us will always put our best foot forward, like posting the best pics only with our make up perfectly done, kids behaving and smiling for the camera and the house neat with all toys packed neatly in their place.

What you will not see are the days when the eyes are sleep deprived because one child was unwell for most of the night, or the untidy house because the maid had an emergency and could not show up and not forgetting the late night in preparation for the make or break presentation at work.

Today I just wanted to remind you that comparing yourself to what you see others potraying on social media steals your joy. Do you and remember that what you see others potraying is actually not the whole story.

Yours truly

How to spend quality time with your children

So last Friday I wrote about Mommy Me Time and some of the activities that you could do to relax, rejuvenate and be in a good space to look after those you love. This is important. Remember you have to fit your own mask first before you can help others.

Now I know as a working mom you have to also spend time with your children. I find that sometimes I am extremely busy at work that I don’t engage with them fully during the week as I would want. Here are some of the things you can do to spend quality time with your children.

1. Prepare their favourite meal together regardless of their gender. If you are a mom of a boy child, remember you are raising tomorrow’s gentleman and husband. If he is going to help his wife in the kitchen in future, he needs to learn from you now.( That’s a topic for another day). YouTube has great videos for making easy recipes that kids can be involved in. On some weekends we make pizza and the kneading and mixing is so much fun for little people. Don’t worry if you don’t match the real pizza from the Italian restaurant. It’s about spending time with your children and doing something fun together.

2. If you have girls, go to the hairdresser together and enjoy getting your hair and theirs done.

3. Our boy loves cars and trains and there is nothing more he loves than have mommy help him build the race tracks and race cars together. By the way our girls are also into cars so this is definitely something we all do together.

4. Have a picnic in the garden and bring their favourite healthy snacks.

5. My kids love sleepovers but I do not allow them to go for any so once in a while we have a “sleepover” in the lounge and we bring all our mattress and talk and play games until they dose off to sleep one by one. We usually do this over long weekends when we know we aren’t going anywhere the following morning.

6. Watch their favourite TV show together with you totally engaged and your mobile phone very far away. In our house we love Paw Patrol, Blaze and The Monster Machines and Rainbow Ruby. (NB I am careful what my children watch and it’s important that every mom does). It is also important to limit screen time for children but we can talk about that another time.

7. Listen to them, their stories and be fully present. Answer all their questions and enjoy every moment with them. I am sure, well I know they will not be children forever.

Enjoy the weekend with your children and do share with me how you spend quality time with your children at

How To Make Mornings Easier

Weekday mornings are hectic in our household. Getting all of us ready and avoiding the Nairobi traffic to get to work and the kids to school on time is not easy. After trying out different routines, the following has helped our family a lot and below are some of the ways we make our weekday mornings easier.

1. Get a live-in house help. This will ensure you have help with some of the things that need to be done in the morning.

2. Prepare the lunch boxes the night before. It’s even better to make a schedule of what you are packing in the lunchboxes for the whole week and ensure the ingredients are available when you need them.

3. Pack the school bags the night before remembering to include everything needed, sports kits, library books etc. You really don’t want to be the one whose child is always missing one thing or the other.

4. Take out the clothes the kids will wear the night before. Same for you. Decide what you are wearing the night before and save yourself time trying out different outfits.

5. Make waking up pleasant. No screaming or pulling blankets off. If you use an alarm for the children, make it as friendly as possible for example their favourite rhyme or song.

6. With experience I have come to realise that our bedtime habits determine the success of our mornings. Even during weekends I now insist on sticking to the same bedtime as weekdays.

7. Wake up early and give yourself enough time to get ready and also get the children ready.

8. Simplify breakfast. It’s the most important meal of the day but do not complicate it.

9. If you have to, set an alarm for the time that you need to leave the house and still aim to leave 5 minutes earlier than that time.

Try out some of the above and share with me your feedback and comments. I am always happy to hear from you and can be reached on

Have a great week ahead with easy mornings.

Mommy Me Time – 10 Things To Do

After a busy week at work and at home, you deserve to take time out for yourself and recharge your batteries. Here is a list of ten things to do during mommy-me-time.

1. Bury yourself in a great book. Some of my favorite authors include Malcolm Gladwell, Angela Duckworth, and Robert Kiyosaki. I also love glossy magazines and Destiny Woman is right at the top for me.

2. Retail therapy and window shopping is fun. I love trying out clothes and shoes. Infact I love shoes so much I even had to include this in my blog name. Take note I don’t spend money I don’t have. Just trying out clothes is lots of fun. When I really don’t want to buy, there are certain individuals I will avoid😂😂. I will not be naming and shaming them here.

3. I have some favourite shows on Netflix. I don’t binge watch them … ( by the way at what number of episodes do you consider it binge watching?). I love How To Get Away With Murder, Suits and The Good Wife. I am sure in another life I would have done law hence my attraction to these types of shows.

4. Going for a walk is absolutely therapeutic especially one in nature. Reminds me of growing up in the village and exploring the hills behind our homestead. If you are urban based, the nearest park could be a close enough to the countryside walk.

5. Go for a manicure and pedicure and get pampered. Reminds me that I am more than a mom.

6. Catch up on your sleep. This is my favorite Sunday afternoon after church activity.

7. Go for coffee with your girlfriends and catch up on what has been happening in your life.

8. Still with the girls, catch the latest movie together.

9. Go to the gym, a run or any some other sports activity to keep fit.

10. Start a new hobby, painting, blogging, cooking or anything else that you have been putting off.

This weekend I will be doing 1, 3 and 6. How about you? What activities are in your mommy-me-time?

Invitation to write a guest post for Muminstilettos

As a Muminstilettos I would love to feature guest posts on my blog. I know there are many enormously talented moms who against all odds are ‘doing it all’.

Take note we do not pay for any featured posts but will definitely help in getting more traffic to your blog.

Below are the guidelines to follow to increase your chances of having your post featured.

1. Does your post address the challenges faced by working moms

2. Does your post provide solutions that working mothers can easily implement?

3. Would working moms consider your post valuable and share it with their friends?

4. Does your post share from your own experiences as a working mom?

Once you have answered YES to all the above, please write to and I will be sure to get back to you. Share this post with all your friends.