Seizing the moment…..did Zimbabwe’s big brand marketers miss an opportunity from the Advocate Mahere & Dr Gwaunza Date?

If you are a Zimbabwean on Twitter, you will know how on Friday 24th and Saturday 25th of April Advocate Mahere and Dr Gwaunza were trending. They literally set Twitter on fire for Zimbabweans. What started off as a guy shooting his shot, turned into a movement, a force for good and brought joy to us Zimbabweans during such trying times. By the way I have written about Shooting your shot, and you can read it here. So back to today’s story. The biggest lesson from all this for me was how brands, big or small can make use of moment marketing to drive reach and engagement. If you are not on Twitter, don’t worry I will bring you up to speed on what happened. I will share on brands that i think did well and those that i believe did extremely well.

The tweet that started it all!

So above is the tweet that started it all. In response, Fadzayi said she would go on a date with Lenon if he got 100 retweets. I am not sure how many followers Lenon had before he tweeted on Thursday the 23rd. When I checked on Friday the 24th around 11am, he had just over 1000 Twitter followers. At the time of writing this post ( Saturday 25th night), he is now close to 7000 followers on Twitter. Fadzayi has always been a “powerhouse” on Twitter and currently has close to 240 000 followers. I am sure there was significant follower growth for her too over the last two days.

Anyhow, it didn’t take a long time for Lenon to get the 100 retweets that Fadzayi had set as a condition for the date to happen. The goalposts were then shifted and Fadzayi said she would go for the date if the retweets got to 5000.

At that stage the responsive brands caught on to what was happening and immediately got into gear. Mambo’s Chicken was one of the first ones to respond with the tweet below.

From Fadzayi’s response, she had actually never tasted Mambo’s chicken. So not only did the brand get more exposure, they also have other potential customers. Other brands that responded at that stage were Cresta Hotels that promised to host the date post the lockdown. It wasn’t difficult for the Dr to get to the 5000 retweets that had been set. Who doesn’t like a good love story? Even some of Fadzayi’ s friends were on #teamLenon.

In my opinion gears shifted when Tawanda Nyambirai a well known Zimbabwean lawyer and businessman intervened to “save” Fadzayi from the date by offering a ventilator to a hospital in response to COVID-19. At that stage this moved from being a public pre-date exchange between two people to a citizen driven national initiative to meet the various challenges brought about by COVID-19 in Zimbabwe. Fadzayi and Lenon happened to be at the centre of the beautiful occurrence.

In my opinion, this is when gears shifted

Other well known people in the country put their support behind the “movement”. The British High Commissioner to Zimbabwe weighed in with the below tweet, and so did the leader of the opposition, Nelson Chamisa.

And the stakes were increased when Fadzayi responded with yet another change in goalposts.

The brands that did extremely well are those that elevated their responses beyond the Dr and the Advocate and responded to community needs especially given the wide range of challenges the country is facing. A few examples below.

Free CT Brain Scans for 3 medical outreach programs
Free eye screening for an old people’s home
Free rooftop solar to an old people’s home or orphanage
Another free solar installation

The one above got several enquiries after he posted his pledge. See below.

Enquiries for business

The pledges for #Zimagainstcovid19 are still coming in. The USD5000,00 was exceeded on Friday night. Donations to both the trust, the date and other worthy causes are still coming in. You can still make your donation.

Sponsor COVID-19 Testing in Zimbabwe

So let’s get to the marketing lessons. Did big brands in Zimbabwe miss an opportunity yesterday? Let’s start with a definition.

Moment marketing is the ability to take advantage of an event to deliver relevant and related, seemingly spontaneous, and often fleeting interactions with customers in real time.

Moment marketing isn’t and should not substitute the always- on digital campaigns. It should be employed to strategically complement core campaigns and drive more brand reach and engagement.

Most big brands are most likely to have their social media calendars for the month already set and signed off in advance. That is all good. It is however important to have a procedure in place that allows the Social Media Manager to quickly come up with content that is relevant to events as they happen and get the approvals before the momentum fizzles out.

There were big Zimbabwean brands I expected to see responding to the MahereGwaunza date and I think they might have missed an opportunity. What do you think? Do you think there are brands that missed an opportunity yesterday? Which ones? What should they have said? Share your views in the comments section.

Shoot your shot Sis, don’t wait for perfect conditions…building confidence and courage in women.

The Urban Dictionary defines ‘shooting your shot’ as taking a brave step towards something and not waiting for an opportunity to come to you. You have probably heard this statement in reference to a guy having the guts to slide into a girl’s DM on Twitter or Instagram and using some cheesy pick up line. Today that’s not what I am talking about. I am talking about shooting your shot in your career and in your business so please stay with me.

Photo byย Renato Abatiย fromย Pexels

Hewlett Packard wanted to find out why there were fewer women in their top management positions. They carried out a study. The findings have been quoted in several books and publications including Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In. The finding was that “women working at HP applied for a promotion only when they believed they met 100 percent of the qualifications listed for the job. On the other hand, men were applying even when they met 60% of the job requirements”.

Years back when I was still a Brand Manager, there was an opening for a Senior Brand Manager in my business unit. At that time I was managing a cluster of four countries and the role that was being advertised was a regional role which involved managing 22 countries and having the cluster brand teams reporting into that role. I didn’t doubt my qualifications to do the job. I knew I would totally ace it as I met most of the requirements. I was hesitant to apply because the role required a relocation to a different country. I was in the middle of doing my MBA and wanted to start a family with my beloved husband who had just pivoted from teaching into the corporate world. According to me, it just wasn’t the right time to apply for this role based on the plans we had as a family. So I decided I would not apply.

When I mentioned this to my husband, his advice surprised me. He encouraged me to apply for the role and also let my employer know at this stage I was not able to relocate. I was really scared of doing this. I felt my inability to relocate automatically disqualified me. In my mind I was better off not even trying rather than try and be disappointed. How could my husband just think I could go around asking for a promotion and going on to ask for concessions to be made to suit my circumstances?

Whether its perception that we are not qualified enough which points to lack of confidence or its lacking courage to push ourselves forward and asking our employers to consider our unique circumstances, we have to acknowledge that some of the work that needs to happen in order for more women to be in senior positions starts with us as well. Yes the system might be tilted against women but there are still steps we can take at an individual level.

Inspite of my fear I put forward my name for the role. I was scared but I applied. I shot my shot and was transparent during the interview process to mention that because of family reasons I wasn’t able to relocate but I was very much interested in the role. I am sure you can guess what happened……drum roll…….. I got the job and I aced it too. When our circumstances changed we eventually relocated this time with our three children and my MBA.

“You alway miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t shoot

Here is some advice

1. Take aim and shoot your shot.

2. Do it even when you are scared.

3. Have a trusted person to share your plans with. It can be your spouse, a friend, a mentor or a work colleague, as long as they have your best interests at heart and will hold you accountable.

4. Affirm yourself positively. I am always telling myself “you got this girl, you can do it girl….” Sometimes we are our own worst enemies. We tell ourselves things we would never say to our friends. Quit doing that. The same way you encourage your friends and cheer them on is the same way you should encourage yourself and be your own cheerleader.

5. Even if you miss the net, get the learnings and try again and again and again. Last month my young sister sent me a video of my nephew learning to walk. He was falling more than he was walking but he kept at it. Last week I got another video and our little boy is now walking. I bet in a few weeks he will be running. I don’t think my nephew ever thought walking isn’t for him just because he fell several times. He kept on trying. Learn from little children and keep trying until you get it. Success is for you too.

No more dribbling the ball. Just shoot your shot already. Let me know in the comments what you are doing next now that you know even at 60 percent you should still take aim and shoot.

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Lessons for women owned businesses from Octavia Spencer’s Self Made Series: The Life of Madame C.J Walker.

Octavia Spencer plays Madame C.J Walker

Self Made is a Netflix four part movie series that was released towards the end of March this year. The lead role is played by Octavia Spencer, Blair Underwood plays her husband C.J and Tiffany Hardish plays Madame C.J ‘s daughter. I found the series so captivating when I watched it during the first weekend of lockdown that I finished all the episodes in one go…(don’t judge me yet). I was ready to do an immediate review as soon as I finished watching it but I decided to wait and have more people watch it so this post would be more contextual.

There are lessons to be learnt from Madame ‘s life that are relevant especially for women running their own businesses. Here are some of the lessons I gleaned. Feel free to add yours in the comments section of this post.

1. Start with your own story – Madame had been trying to sell the hair grower made by her friend Addie unsuccessfully. The day she shared her hair journey story and how the product she was selling had solved her hair loss problem is the day her sales picked off. The only thing customers are looking for are solutions to the problems they have. They will pay what they consider a fair price. Your focus should be on how your product or service solves the customer’s problem. If this is actually your own testimonial then you have hit the sweet spot.

2. Hard work pays – you will agree that Madame C.J worked hard,really hard. She put in the hours and the results were visible. She started off washing clothes, became a hairdresser and eventually she became the first black American female millionaire. Working hard is about not giving up, not taking no for an answer and refusing to be stereotyped because you are a woman.

3. Don’t give up– this lesson literally runs like a thread throughout the series. Madame tried her formula several times until she came up with a product that she was happy with. Even when she didn’t get the funding she needed from the people she first approached she didn’t give up. She just kept at it. She reminded me of the widow in the Bible from the book of Luke 18 vs 3-7 who kept on coming before the judge to get justice against someone who had wronged her. The widow was so persistent that she wearied the judge. By the way the Bible says this was an unrighteous judge. It doesn’t matter who you are dealing with. Keep at it sis. (I always try and find an opportunity to preach)

4. Build a network– you need a network of people around you to support your dreams. Dr Sam Chand calls these people ladder holders. They literally hold the ladder for you as you climb. Even though their relationship eventually ended, C.J, Madame’s husband was initially very supportive. Freeman was also very supportive of Madame. He believed in her dream so much he borrowed money from his cousin Sweetness to become the first investor in Madame’s business.

What would have happened if Madame and Addie had collaborated instead of competing?

4. Watch out for the weakest link in your team – Madame’s son in law almost cost her the whole business. It was his carelessness that caused a fire that set the business back. He then went on to share company information with Addie who was Madame’s biggest competitor. Identify who the weakest link is in your team and manage them from the onset.

5. Collaborate instead of competing – for a greater part of the series, Madame and her former friend Addie were fierce competitors. Even though they started out as friends, somewhere along the way things got ugly. Addie even tried to “steal” some of the women who were working for Madame. I can only imagine what would have happened if Madame and Addie had actually collaborated instead of competing. Ladies, I believe the sky is big enough for all the birds t fly so collaborations are actually beneficial especially for small businesses.

6. Take those closest to you along with you – my own view is that even though C.J was initially very supportive of Madame, I got the sense that the vision for the business was not really shared. C.J was happy with the level of success they had achieved and yet Madame still wanted more. As a woman business owner, it’s important that your significant other is fully onboard with the vision and plans for your business. He might not be involved in the day to day running of the business but his full support makes your success easier.

7. Empower others – Madame’s success wasn’t hers alone. She had a team of direct sales women who were part of her distribution network. Her success allowed her to make a difference to women who would not have been able to provide for their families.

Madame and her husband C.J played by Blair Underwood

8. Get time to rest – this lesson comes from what Madame failed to do. She worked so hard so didn’t give herself enough time to rest. Hard work is important but so is rest.

9. Build on firm foundations – towards the end of the series we actually learn that Madame had stolen her friend Addie’s formula. Whether this is true in real life or it was a twist for movie purposes only, the lesson is to make sure your business is built on firm foundations. I shudder to think what would have happened if Addie had decided to take legal action against Madame. All the years of hard work would have been completely lost.

10. Build a good brand– Madame’s success was a result of an excellent marketing strategy. Being a marketer myself, i was impressed. Her formula was excellent as it solved the problem the customer had. Her distribution strategy using other women as a type of direct sales force was spot on. She was clear what type of woman she wanted to appeal to and didn’t go with fads of what everyone else thought sold. Her brand name which she built very carefully and tied excellently to her as a person was a stroke of genius. Even when C.J married another wife and tried to use the same brand name, it just wasn’t going to succeed. The world already new “the real” Madame C.J Walker. Her name was actually Sarah but she insisted on being called Madame C.J Walker because she was building a brand. Don’t underestimate the power of building a great brand.

So what are some of the lessons that you learnt from Self Made? Do share them in the comments section.

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Easter 2020, our hope renewed

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Hope, Love, Faith

Today is Good Friday. A day Christians celebrate the crucifixion and death of Jesus Christ on the cross, taking our place by dying for our sins. It is rather an oxymoron that such a solemn day would be called good. There are different theories of how the word good came about. One theory says good actually means Holy Friday. Another says it should be God Friday. Well I am not here to debate that. For me it is a good day because His crucifixion and death on the cross led to His resurrection on the third day leading to my salvation when I confess His Lordship. This is a season of hope winning over fear, of faith winning over despair, of life winning over death and amazing love.

The cross equals LOVE

I now understand how Jesus’ disciples must have felt on the Friday he was crucified. Probably confused, grief stricken, afraid and very very sad. Even though He had told them he would rise again on the third day, they did not know how that would happen. Regardless of what our world might be going through right now the story of Easter gives me hope that this too shall pass.

Our Easter tradition since we became parents is to visit my parents in Nyanga in the Eastern Highlands of Zimbabwe. This year this is not possible because we are in lockdown in South Africa. I wrote a post on what I would do when all this is over and you can read about it here.

What i will do

I am going to prioritize my self care and making sure I find time to take care of me. You can read the post Fitting Your Own Mask First that I wrote a while back here. Below is a list of what self care will look like for me this long weekend.

  1. Sleep in and rest without the pressure of ongoing Zoom meetings.
  2. Call my parents and each of my siblings.
  3. Make a meal that i know my children really love.
  4. Update my blog. I might as well schedule the posts for the next week or two.
  5. Finish the book i have been reading for the past three weeks.
Updating my blog

There are also activities that we will do as a family.

  1. Attend the online Easter services.
  2. Play soccer in the garden.
  3. Watch Thomas & Friends, Vegetales, and for the fifth time over the last three weeks, The Lorax.
  4. Play monopoly.
  5. Convert the lounge floor into the Island of Sodor and build the train tracks so Thomas & Friends can ride.
  6. Picnic in the garden if the weather permits. It’s been rather chilly lately.
  7. Do the Easter egg hunt. By the way this tradition has nothing to do with the true meaning if Easter.
Our lounge will turn into the Island of Sodor for Thomas & Friends

Given most of us have a bit more time because of the long Easter weekend and the lockdown, why not take advantage of the low priced bundle that is full of really valuable resources for everyone in such times of uncertainty? The Invest In Your Faith Mini Bundle is for a limited period as it ends on the 15th of April 2020. For only USD7.00, you get 9 products worth USD197.97. The bundle contains 4 ebooks, 3 eCourses, 2 printable packs and 2 workbooks. Below is the list of what you get in this bundle.

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May the true meaning of the season manifest in your life. May your hope be renewed. May your faith be restored. May the miracle of resurrection manifest in your life. Whatever was dead in your life may it come to life and may you experience the love of a saviour who willingly laid down his life for you.

John 10 vs 10

The thief comes only to kill, to steal and to destroy. I came that they might have life and have it more abundantly

Shalom, from Mum in Stilettos

When all this is over challenge..

Now more than ever is a time to inspire hope around our world. I was thinking of a the things that my family and I are going to do when the challenges of COVID-19 are over. Thinking about all the possibilities really got me very excited.

So here is what I am going to do when all this is over. Since I became a parent and as long as we are in Zimbabwe, we usually visit my parents every April holiday. The drive to my rural home in Nyanga where my parents live and where I grew up is scenic and amazing. I have so many memories of many trips on the Nyanga – Harare road. The canyon just after Mont Claire Hotel, London Stores where vendors sell delicious apples, Vhengere bus terminus in Rusape where my mum would buy us tsenza ( I actually don’t know the English name), Halfway House, Eagle’s Nest and I will never forget Bromley where as a nine year old my brothers and i were once stuck for over three hours after the bus had a puncture.

I took this photo in April 2015. We call this place Masumbureru ( umbrellas) and it’s just before London Stores as you are driving towards Harare

Nyangani Mountain. I took this photo in April 2019. This mountain range is about 15km from our homestead. I grew up surrounded by beauty

I literally planned my whole trip to Nyanga in my head and how I will take my kids to see my former primary school Tamunesa School. Its something I am really looking forward to. It inspired hope despite me being in a different country away from my extended family in the middle of a lockdown.

Scenic route to my kumusha Nyanga

I believe as bloggers we can do our part to inspire hope during these times. So I am starting this # when this is all over I will….. blogging challenge. Tell the world what you are going to do when all this is over. There is one simple rule. Start your post by linking back to this post and let’s inspire hope. I will reshare all your blogs on my social media pages.

Mum in stilettos

Find your own version of parenting during times like these!

There’s obviously a lot of advice out there directed at mothers who are struggling to manage working from home, keeping kids busy so they don’t disturb during Zoom meetings. Kids are probably frustrated because they can’t play with their friends and do all things normal to them. Truth is we are all learning as we go.

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I personally think sifting through all this advice can be very overwhelming. I have seen schedules with activities for the children to do by the hour. I bet it works for some and I am not here to judge. I am not following any schedule right now with my children. We are all just taking it as it comes. Yesterday there was a bit of soccer in the garden. Then a tea party on the lounge floor, some Zumba to exercise and of course the train tracks which are now a permanent feature in our lounge. You know why not putting my children on a schedule is working for me right now? Firstly because this week they would have been on holiday anyway so I am not going to give them any extra work but allow them to actually have the break they need. Secondly this simplifies my life.

Soccer in the garden

Here is my advice, find your own version of parenting that works for you. In uncertain times where we don’t really have our “normal” anymore, decide what are the non negotiables. It might be screen time, it might be bedtime. Don’t feel pressured into following schedules that might leave your children frustrated. And don’t take my word for it either. If your kids prefer structure then by all means have them follow a schedule. In simple words “just do your own parenting version”

The train tracks are a permanent feature in the lounge right now

Hoping you are enjoying spending more quality and uninterrupted time with your loved ones as we continue in lockdown.

Mum in stilettos

My song of the moment

No doubt the last few weeks have not been easy on a lot of us. For me working from home, home schooling and trying to keep a positive mindset in a foreign land has been challenging. Even though this is the second country we have lived in with my hubby and children away from our home country Zimbabwe, being away from family during a global crisis like this is taxing.

One of the things that has helped me remain positive is music. Music has an amazing way of lifting the mood and completely changing my atmosphere. I have been listening to a number of songs but there is one song that I has been a constant encouragement. It’s called Way Maker and it was originally done by Sinach, an amazing Nigerian gospel singer. A number of other musicians have gone on to do their own version of the same song and I even heard a Brazilian version a few days back.

Way Maker

You can listen to the song here. Hope it encourages you as it is encouraging me.


Now we know who the real heroes are.

The last few weeks have made all of us appreciate the various professions that we always knew were important but didn’t really appreciate the extent of their importance. Kinda reminds me of the statement “you don’t know what you have got until it’s gone”. Below is a list of my real heroes. Feel free to add more in the comments section. By the way this isn’t in any particular order. I am just writing these as they come to mind.

Teachers have always been heroes

1. Teachers – there is a video that went viral last week. In this video, an Israeli mum of four complains about teachers sending too much work for each of her four children to work on because of the early closure schools as a way to social distance. She rants that she only has two computers in her house and how the children are fighting. She complains about one teacher wanting to have a zoom call at 8 in the morning and how the work she is expected to help with is exposing her ignorance to her children. If you didn’t get a chance to watch this video, have a look at it here.

I am sure the video was meant to be humorous but it also made me wonder if there is real understanding of the real work that teachers have in educating our children. I come from a family of teachers. Three of my sisters are teachers, my husband is a former teacher and so were his two sisters. Even I had a three months teaching stint during one of my varsity breaks. I remember accompanying my sister to her class after church on Sunday to prepare for the following week. I remember spending some Saturday mornings with her as she went through the students work. And I also remember my sisters being busy preparing lesson plans for the term during the last two weeks of the school holiday. I think she called it “scheming ” and “planning “. The fact that our governments underpay teachers doesn’t make their work less important. It simply means their priorities are misplaced. I hope the lockdowns and closure of schools actually help highlight the importance of the teaching profession and bring the much needed reforms starting with teacher remuneration especially those in public schools.

2. Maids/Nannies/House helpers – I was following a discussion on one Facebook group as people discussed how the social distancing and eventually lockdown was going to impact on the ability of their maids to come to work. Some were getting their maids to move in with them during the lockdown. For others the maids needed to also be with their families during the lockdown. All of a sudden there was a realisation of the importance of the maid’s role. Not only are people working from home, children are also at home and the helpers are also with their own families so there is a whole lot of work to do. Just because a job doesn’t require four years of training to do it doesn’t make it any less important. I hope this makes everyone realise the important role helpers play in their employers families and give them the respect they deserve.

Maids/Nannies/House helpers are heroes

3. Healthcare workers (nurses,doctors etc.) – this one almost seems like a no brainer but its worth mentioning that these guys are already at the forefront of fighting this epidemic. Leaving their families especially during this crisis is a risk as they might be infected. Even though some governments are not treating health care professionals properly (I shall not mention any names), citizens are fully aware that if we are going to fight and win against this pandemic, we will need to have healthcare professionals who are fully equipped with to do their jobs. With that said, I am inviting you to contribute to the GoFundMe initiative that is is raising funds to fight the pandemic in Zimbabwe. Please follow the link here and give generously.

Support healthcare workers on the frontline

4. Finally for me, mothers in general are heroes right now. They are working their usual jobs from homes, those who are entrepreneurs are trying to keep their businesses afloat with potentially no income for the next three weeks, they are trying to keep children who are out of school busy and entertained within four walls and all this sometimes without any help. There are definitely some fathers out there who are stepping up to the challenge. They are heroes and i celebrate them too.

Who are your real heroes since this crisis began? Let me know in the comments section. Stay safe, stay at home and remember to wash your hands

Mum in stilettos

Country in lockdown? – how to be at peace in the middle of the uncertainties…

White dove symbolizes peace of the deepest kind

As humans, being in control and wanting to be certain of what is coming next is natural. It helps us feel secure when we think we know what will happen next. Having said this, our tolerance and ability to handle uncertainty differs from one person to another.

Before this lockdown, we were going for daily walks with the children as a way to exercise and get them out of the house for some fresh air. One of the days we reversed the route. Our 8 year old was completely disoriented by this and clearly expressed her anxiety and asked that we never do that again. There was a route she was used to and she preferred that we only used that route.

The events of the past few weeks seem to have left the whole world disoriented. It’s only the first quarter of the year but it seems all the plans for 2020 are now at risk of being unfulfilled. This isn’t the route we are used to. It is not the normal we know. We are no longer in control. We don’t really know what is going to happen at the end of the 21 day lockdowns that many countries have implemented.

So how do you maintain your peace in the middle of the storm when there is so much uncertainty? I am not a mental health expert so I am sharing what I have been doing in order to try and maintain my peace and sanity inspite of all the uncertainties.

1. My faith has been an anchor. I am reading my Bible and claiming all the promises for times such as these. Psalms 91, Psalms 23 and so many other scriptures are a few examples. These scriptures are building faith in me and replacing the fear.

Claim the promises of God for times such as these.

2. I am intentionally looking for positive news. Not the new infections or deaths but the recoveries, the potential vaccines that companies are working on and all testimonies from doctors and nurses of how they witnessed recoveries they didn’t think were possible.

3. I am physically distanced from others except my hubby and children but I am definitely connecting daily with my parents, my siblings and friends. Video calls ,voice calls and even normal WhatsApp chats are helping me stay connected.

4. I am planning for the future, restrategizing and seeing what needs to change on my vision board. I am keeping hope alive. Hope makes the present bearable and having something to look forward to is also making me take the steps towards the future I want.

Worship is a weapon

5. I am worshipping using my favourite songs. My song of the moment that I have on repeat is Way Maker originally done by Sinach. I love this version here which was done by Steffeny Gretzinger and John Wilds. Like my nephew Tatenda says it ” ine mafuta” ( meaning he feels the anointing in the song). The verse below is definitely giving me peace in this storm.

Even when I don’t feel it you are working

Even when I don’t see it you are working

You never stop ,you never stop working.

In conclusion I will share with you Matthew 8 vs 23-27 (New International Version)

Then he got into the boat and his disciples followed him. Suddenly a furious storm came up on the lake, so that the waves swept over the boat. But Jesus was sleeping. The disciples went and woke him, saying, โ€œLord, save us! Weโ€™re going to drown!โ€ He replied, โ€œYou of little faith, why are you so afraid?โ€ Then he got up and rebuked the winds and the waves, and it was completely calm. The men were amazed and asked, โ€œWhat kind of man is this? Even the winds and the waves obey him!โ€

Jesus is in this boat with us. Winds, waves and viruses obey him.

How are you keeping your peace in this storm? How are you maintaining your sanity? Let me know in the comments section. Follow me on this page and on my social media pages below. If this has been helpful also share with your friends.


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Stay safe and remember to wash your hands.

Mum in stilettos.

My tribe of girls…

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For the past two or so weeks, it seems the coverage on the corona virus on every news outlet has reached a whole new level. I totally get why it’s this way. I have also written about it on my social media pages. I however really just want to take a break and write about something different. I am sure there are others like me who just want to read something different.

My life has been hectic lately. Not in a bad way though. It’s been all good. I actually wrote this post in January and had planned to post it on IWD. Like I said, life has been happening and I never got to do that on Sunday the 8th of March. Anyway, I am glad I am finally able to share it with you and have you read something that’s not corona virus related.

It is always said behind every woman is a tribe of other women who are cheering her on. This is very true. Every woman needs a tribe of women who are there for her to do life with, celebrate the victories, be a shoulder to cry on, push her when she feels like giving up and tell it to her straight when she isn’t getting her act together.

I consider myself truly blessed to come from a big family. There are nine of us, seven girls and two boys. I guess God knew I would need this particular tribe of girls because they play different roles which are all important in me being me.

I have the sisters who are always checking on my children no matter what, especially the older sisters. I have another who looks after all my three children plus her own, allowing my husband and me to have a bit of life aside from being parents. I have another who will drop everything she’s doing to stay behind with my children when I have business trips. And all of them are my prayer support group. Oh did I forget to mention that all these women tell it to me like it is without sugar coating. We sometimes fight and might not speak for weeks afterwards but we always find our way back to each other. After all they say blood is thicker than water. My tribe helps me in carrying the heavy load that life sometimes brings. When I think I cannot handle something they remind me whose I am. When I set goals and make the mistake of sharing with them, they hold me accountable and keep me honest. This is the tribe I didn’t choose for myself but that God himself chose for me.

I also have my tribe of girls that I met in the course of life. At work these are the girls who urged me to put my hand up even when I didn’t think I qualified, the girls who supported my idea and stood with me to convince everyone around the table that it would work. The girls who defended me behind closed doors when I wasn’t there to do it for myself. The girls who pushed me and asked me to try one last time.

Early this year I met another tribe, the blogging girls. I have been blogging for years now, just as a creative outlet and to share my world as I navigate pursuing my career and raising my children. It was great to finally meet like minded people all blogging about different topics dear to their hearts. One day soon, I will get some of them to be guest bloggers here.

Last but not least, I cannot forget the girls who help me fulfill my desire of being a working mum as they help look after my “bundles of joy” when I am at work, keep my house clean and help me seem like I have it all together. I personally wouldn’t be where I am today if I had not had this tribe’s help since i became a mother.

Here are a few things I have learnt about keeping your tribe:

  1. Relationships don’t just happen on their own. You have to work on them. Make time for the catch up, make that phone call, send that WhatsApp, be there when needed and just put in the work to make it work.
  2. Make sure you can be yourself. If you have to pretend to be who you are not just to fit in, then maybe that’s not the right tribe for you.
  3. No spending money you don’t have to impress them.
  4. Keep the confidential stuff shared confidential. Nothing worse than hearing what was shared confidentially being repeated elsewhere by people who were not even present.
  5. Forgive when wronged.
  6. Ask for forgiveness when you are in the wrong.

So who is in your tribe? Celebrate them today and let them know how much they mean to you. And please do tell your tribe to follow my blog and like my page on both Facebook and Instagram. They might just end up being in my tribe as well ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š.