Is it just me or there are other working mums out there that also experience motherhood guilt? Initially i thought the longer i was a mother, the easier it would get…but no. Next week Thursday i will be 6 years a mother and it has not really gotten better. Here are some of the things i feel guilty about.
1. I feel guilty about having a few minutes to myself. Three kids under 6 is not a walk in the park. Sometimes i just want time to be ‘me’, not a mother wiping bottoms, not a peacekeeper stopping a fight over the pink doll and definitely not being cross examined by little people on why they should eat their carrots. To find ‘me’, I have resorted to locking myself in the bedroom and at times in the bathroom, wherever works at that particular moment and ignored soft little knocks on the door and immediately felt guilty for doing that to ny children.
2. I am that mum that misses school functions and that really makes feel guilty. I missed my daughter’s swimming gala the other term and when i received the videos of her receiving her certificate, my heart just broke. One time our daughter told me she was the only one whose mum was not picking her up from school everyday and that made me feel very guilty.
3. I feel guilty when i get too busy at work and get home when my children are already in bed.
4. I feel guilty when we leave the children at home in order to have ‘us time’ with my hubby and i can’t stop talking about them or checking on them every other hour.
5. And i also feel guilty about feeling guilty….😟😟😟
On really a serious note though, i have learnt in my few years as a mother that my children are perfectly okay and a lot of this guilt is about me and the things i need to deal.
So its perfectly okay …….
-It’s perfectly okay if i lock myself wherever i choose in order to find myself
-It’s perfectly okay to be passionate about my work as it allows me to give my children opportunities they would not have if i was doing something else
-It’s perfectly okay to spend time with my hubby without the kids. If our relationship is healthy we become better parents to them.
-And it’s perfectly okay to be a great mom and a great boss lady too.
Do you sometimes feel motherhood guilt? Share in the comments section below.